A Return to Modesty

A Return to Modesty

Discovering the Lost Virtue

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Revised and updated, this fifteenth anniversary edition of A Return to Modesty reignites Wendy Shalit's controversial claim that we have lost our respect for an essential virtue: modesty.

When A Return to Modesty was first published in 1999, its argument launched a worldwide discussion about the possibility of innocence and romantic idealism. Wendy Shalit was the first to systematically critique the "hook-up" scene and outline the harms of making sexuality so public.

Today, with social media increasingly blurring the line between public and private life, and with child exploitation on the rise, the concept of modesty is more relevant than ever. Updated with a new preface that addresses the unique problems facing society now, A Return to Modesty shows why "the lost virtue" of modesty is not a hang-up that we should set out to cure, but rather a wonderful instinct to be celebrated.

A Return to Modesty is a deeply personal account as well as a fascinating intellectual exploration into everything from seventeenth-century manners to the 1948 tune "Baby, It's Cold Outside." Beholden neither to social conservatives nor to feminists, Shalit reminds us that modesty is not prudery, but a natural instinct--and one that may be able to save us from ourselves.
Publisher: New York :, Free Press,, [2014]
Edition: Free Press trade paperback edition, Fifteenth anniversary edition
ISBN: 9781476756653
Call Number: 306.7082 Sh16r 2014
Characteristics: xxxiv, 326 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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Dec 03, 2015

Fantastic. I wish I had read this book when it was 1st published. It may have saved me a lot of heart ache & self esteem. I'd encourage any young adult to read this.

Haunting memories came back to me as I read this. The sexual revolution was a lie & we have sacrificed our families, children, and ourselves in the name of so-called liberation. We're enslaved to a sexually sick culture that makes girls and women into objects in a way that is much worse than prior to the 60's.

My mom's baby boom generation prides itself on their sexual freedoms while complaining that they have to spend holidays with their ex-spouses & their current spouse. Yes we've come a long way baby...and that way is killing us in a way war, famine, and guns don't. The soul does matter, mortality can be useful, and we need to stop pretending our supposed liberation isn't being forced upon us.

Sep 15, 2015

Optimistic, refreshing, and terrific. Absolutely worth reading. The biggest points in modesty’s favor I can recap here are 1) it gives women a very necessary shield to rebuff unwanted advances and choose who they want to be with, 2) it teaches men and women how to relate to each other as men and women, thus making relations between the sexes more ordered and less destructive, and 3) to use Mrs. Shalit’s words, “Modesty fills in the blank. It answers not the crude *how* of femininity, but the beautiful *why*. And I say this all as a young man who wants to see better relations between men and women in the world. This book is a bottomless inspiration.


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